A young woman in her mid-twenties asked Dr. Laura, "I was cleaning out one of my parents' closet, when I came across my birth certificate. I found out I was adopted. What do I do? Do I tell my parents?
Dr. Laura's answer surprised me. She asked the young woman what her childhood was like. "Wonderful," the adoptee said. "Then don't do anything. They don't need to know that you know. Why take a chance?"
I was very surprised by Dr. Laura's answer. Although the caller sounded like she accepted the answer, I can imagine she is still inflicted with major questions that are gnawing at her soul. My advice would have been different. What do you think?
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- David Michael
- Katy, Texas, United States
- Being a husband and a father is the greatest blessing in my life. I am also a Special Educator to students with an autism spectrum disorder.
3 comments:
Dr. Laura is good but she can be insensitive at times.
I would tell the adopted daughter to follow her heart.
well, It could be that they never told for what they thought were good an nobel reasons. I guess their motivation doesn't really matter.
Her advice may be good advice. If she was looking for a way out, so to speak, She got it. Things are wonderful and you don't have to tell. But if you are right she will eventually tell them. Dr. Laura can't stop her.
Dee,
Some adoptees do not have a desire to identify with their roots, others do. Each person is different. When you find out as an adult, most adoptees feel deceived. Some get very angry and it takes them awhile to mentally recover.
On the birth certificates, most adoptees have two. A birth one, and an adoptive one.
No, I did not and will never tell my adoptive mom that I searched for my birth mom.
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