Getting Past Why

Examining what we feel, not analyzing why, we discover the labyrinthine patterns of our grief and unfinished business...That which has seemed so untouchable in the past is cradled in the arms of forgiveness and compassion, and the armoring begins to melt. The path to the heart becomes straight and clear, recognizing how this exploration of our grief, of the ways of old suffering, opens the path to joy.--Stephine Levine, Healing into Life and Death

Why often gets us stuck in the past. What helps us move forward. Solution focused therapy asks more what questions than why questions. This helps the client move forward. Some questions to consider:

What goal/outcome do you really want to achieve?
What has been the biggest thing you have had to overcome?
What is most pressing on your mind today that your willing to share with me?
What are the improvements you wish to make in your (family, home, financial situation, job, career, personal character, spiritual life, professional skills, quality of life, etc.)
What do you want to accomplish this week?

What moves your thinking forward, why keeps you in the past.